Thursday, July 2, 2009

45 Languages in One Church

Barb and I went to another wedding yesterday. The groom, Akim Dalyop, has been one of our neighbors since we arrived in Nigeria 18 years ago. What we appreciated most about this wedding was its simplicity. Most Nigerian weddings are big, expensive affairs. Before the couple can marry, the groom has to pay a bride price (often symbolic, sometimes more), then somehow raise money for the wedding and all its associated parties. Friends are expected to help once the big time actually come, but still the burden can be pretty heavy and many young people have to postpone marriage for years simply because of the expenses.

Many churches have recognized this problem and are finding ways to solve it. Some perform group weddings or weddings during the regular Sunday service. I've heard (but not verified) that ECWA has discouraged couples from having "send-forths," gatherings before the wedding which serve a social purpose but add to the expenses.

The wedding yesterday was an example of moderation. It was joyful and meaningful but not elaborate and ostentatious. It was not too different from a Sunday worship service, except that it centered on the couple. The sermon--normal length for a church service--was about the importance of transparency and trust between husband and wife, a topic I've never heard preached before, and one that is much needed. The usual flock of photographers were absent, so not causing such distractions as are common. There was no big reception, rather, the guests were served snacks in the courtyard of the church after the wedding. (We were told it would be disrespectful of God's house to eat in it.)

There were no fancy decorations, either, but what caught my eye were the banners along both sides of the sanctuary. There were 45 in all, and each one displayed "God is good, he's so good to me" in one of the Nigerian languages spoken around Jos. I'm guessing that each language was spoken by one or more people in the church of about 1500 members. Now that's diversity! It's also a reminder of the need, even in 2009, to continue translating the Bible and Christian literature into Nigerian languages that don't have them yet. Though many if not most people in these language groups also speak a common language such as Hausa, Yoruba, or Pigin English, nothing compares with having God's word in your own heart language.

Monday, June 1, 2009

Mr. Hezekiah and Elizabeth

IMG_6162 Aisha had unexpected visitors today. Mr. Hezekiah is the new director of Pro-Life Evangel, the crisis pregnancy ministry attached to Evangel Hospital. He and his assistant Elizabeth came to see how Aisha is getting along.

Mr. Hezekiah related the encouraging story of two young women who came to the Pro-Life office this week. They are six and seven months pregnant and in crisis, seeking sanctuary and help at Pro-Life. Both women are typical in that they are not married and their fathers have kicked them out of the home, not wanting to have anything to do with their "renegade" daughters or their unborn babies.

One of the dads told Mr. Hezekiah, "Oh, I'm a Christian. I know about God's love and forgiveness, but I just cannot forgive my daughter for what she has done. If we were living in our village, our neighbors would have killed her. No, I can't forgive her."

Mr. Hezekiah talked with both women individually about the wrong they had done and about God's forgiveness and love. Both women prayed for forgiveness and gave their lives to Christ. Glory to God!

Forgiving is hard. But when we forgive, we are working with God to extend his hand of love and grace. And then, reconciliation and restoration can take place.

Monday, May 25, 2009

How Many (21st Century) Missionaries Does it Take To Change a Light Bulb?

Meta-note: Unfortunately, it appears necessary to explain that this is tongue-in-cheek, as some readers have taken me seriously, a fact that itself makes me worry. My friend Tom Campbell informs me that America is in a post-ironic age. If that's true, it might explain some things. Anyway, if you do not think that there is anything funny about a [wordy] theological-cultural meditation on changing a light-bulb, then read no further! Of course, I may have simply mangled the potential humor, for which I apologize in advance.

Last week someone forwarded me one of those humor pages about how many Baptists (Unitarians, Mormons, Presbyterians, etc.) does it take to change a light bulb. In 

a bit of serendipity, I was reminded of a recent editorial I read on the same issue--changing light bulbs--in missions. Here it is to provoke your thinking:

Note: This question probably would never have been asked in the “old days,” as (1) most missionaries didn’t have electricity and (2) if they did, someone would have simply changed the light bulb without even thinking of the broader implications. The answer below reflects the advances of the past 30 years.



Changing Light Bulbs: It's the Journey that Matters



Photo by Bitzcelt on Flickr.com
Photo by Bitzcelt on Flickr.com

It just happened again--the light in the chapel burned out. I knew we had a spare, and jumped up to fetch it, when a quiet voice from the back pew asked, "what is the rush?" That started me thinking about our whole approach to light bulbs in the [...] Mission. I saw that there were some things to examine before grabbing that new bulb and plugging it in.

First, we must get in touch with our own brokenness. We, too, are like that cold, dark, bulb. We may be burned out. Though our purpose is to shine forth with God’s love, and to burn with passion for worshiping him, our own weakness, coldness, and pride constantly battle against that purpose, and the light may grow dim. Until we deal with our own deeply broken selves, in need of God’s redemption, we will never be able to change the light bulb or, if we do, it will be a useless exercise in our own strength.

Resist the temptation to deal with the surface issue of the light bulb—take some time to reflect, journal, and meditate until you begin to understand what is driving you. Impatience? Self-importance? Need for control? Only after having opened ourselves to our own brokenness and inner pockets of darkness, can we face with honesty the question of whether and when to change the bulb.

Second, we need to look at our use of language. Is it right to say that the light is “broken” or “burned out?” Does that not imply a privileging of a modern, Western, perspective with its meta-narrative of power and control? Worse, does it not imply that the light bulb is simply there for our convenience, rather than an element in a richly-textured cultural matrix?

What about the words “light” and “bulb” themselves? Obviously, they betray the utilitarian Western mindset, implying that the core purpose of the entity is to produce light (again, for our convenience) and wrongly focusing on the externality of shape (“bulb”).[1] This sees the bulb’s identity as static and externally imposed, totally ignores the existential aspects of the individual light bulb’s story, its journey, its dynamic identity and implies that it is somehow worthless, simply to be tossed on the trash heap, just because one phase of that journey is finished.

This, then, brings us to the next issue: is it actually desirable to change the bulb? From whose perspective? Yes, it’s easy for us to jump ahead with our quick, Western fixes. We’re always hurrying, hurrying to fix things, as if our own busyness can lighten a dark world. That light bulb, though, represents the intrusion of colonialism into traditional cultures, cultures more familiar and comfortable with the natural rhythms of light and darkness, ready to gather and tell stories, build relationships during the quiet evenings. In our rush to change the bulb, we risk diminishing or even violating that deeper dimension of culture.

The decision is not one to take lightly upon ourselves, however. After all, it is the people around us, those we serve, who should decide. Do we really understand their perspective? Have we walked in their shoes? Have we given the majority world a chance to speak?[2] We need to “develop a greater posture of listening to others” in humility, not imposing our own Western or organizational values. “We need to learn to be undefended in our leadership” and create a space for the powerless ones to have a voice.

Have we really, truly listened to those silent voices, or are we deafened by the cacophony of violent voices of those with this world’s power, the ones who trample the weak, who want to use a new light bulb only to further their own exploitative power?

We will simply mention a few other issues in passing.
  • Paternalism. Who is in charge? What does changing the light bulb say about power and relationship?

  • Dependency. Missionaries around the world have been changing light bulbs for generations. Have we created a situation of dependency? How can we show a servant spirit in this matter without worsening any dependency?

  • Sustainability. Sure, it’s easy to come along and change one light bulb. But who is going to change it when we’re gone?

  • Gender issues. How does the bulb’s status impact the empowerment of women?
Clearly, the important issue is not the end (whether or not to change the bulb) but the journey, who we are becoming (our authentic identity is not that of “light-bulb-changers”), and how the journey impacts those around us.


References and further reading



Ferriere, Audu Wong. “From campfire to neon lights: the destruction of a traditional culture in southern Pyrexia.” Int. J. Photoanthropological Studies, 1 April 2009

Jaggerwart, M. J. “O, say, can you see? Artificial illumination and the American colonial project.” J. Technology and Transformational Identity, 4 July 1776.

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[1] The racist connotations of this light-dark dichotomy are so blatant as not to need discussion.

[2] “Majority world” means all the world’s people who are not Westerners. Since they all tend to look and think differently than we do, it’s convenient to lump them into one category, thus making them a majority.

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Needed: One Wrapper

IMG_5494_Crop-1 I guess people really do mean different things when they refer to a wrapper. I usually think of a wrapper as being the whole outfit made from a 6-yard piece of brightly-colored Nigerian wax, batik cloth used in dressmaking. It includes a wrap-around, ankle-length skirt, a matching blouse, and a head tie made of whatever cloth remains.

So, when I was told that Pro-Life Evangel needed help to buy the contents of a basket for each new woman entering the hostel, including a new wrapper, I felt a pang of jealousy.

I wrestled with my dark feelings. A new wrapper costs quite a lot of money. I can't afford a new one very often. And they want to give those girls new wrappers? It didn't seem fair. But that was because I had the wrong assumptions.

Over time I gained new insight. I did occasionally contribute 6-yard pieces of dress fabric. Then one day I discovered that, in fact, the 6-yard pieces I was giving the hostel were being carefully cut into three equal pieces, hemmed on the two raw edges, and becoming the wrap-around, ankle-length skirts for three women, not a complete outfit for one, as I had supposed.

Now I take pleasure and satisfaction in spending a few minutes here and there to hem two-yard pieces of cloth into wrapper skirts for women who sometimes come to the hostel with nothing but the clothes they are wearing.

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

In the past week ...

It's not the beginning or end of the week, but I'll still just mention some of our events and doings in the past seven days.

  • We finished reading Pippi Longstocking as our after-dinner book.
  • Aisha is sleeping through the night about half the time.
  • A frog is living under the fridge in our hall.
  • Luke is obsessed with Middle Earth, castles, archers of Rohan, and silly putty.
  • Barb spent a morning in the hospital getting Aisha's shots.
  • I spent a day in the hospital getting a small abdominal hernia repaired--wonderful to be cared for not only by experts but friends.
  • We had a farewell potluck dinner--five of the seven missionary families are leaving in the next two weeks.
  • Barb took clothing to the crisis pregnancy office, and learned that they had just had two young, destitute women come into the program.
  • Our cat is pregnant again (OK, that didn't actually start this week)!
  • I talked with Shaba Adams, a convert from Islam, about the dissertation research that he is doing and how I might give technical help.
  • Luke and I played Stratego for the second time ... a game I used to love when I was about his age. Luke won.
  • Barb and I enjoyed an Italian movie, "Bread and Tulips."
  • We also spent an evening looking for old friends on Facebook. Happy to find some, it's fun to get reconnected. Examples:
    • one friend from high school (39 years ago) found me and added me as a friend. It turns out their family also knows another missionary right here in Jos.
    • we found one of Barb's college friends (King's college in New York), who is now connected with the same church and Christian schools in San Diego where I grew up and my mom taught.
  • We're proud of our kids and the great job they are all doing raising our grandkids. Hope to see all of them before the end of the year.

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

A'isha's Grandma

By Barb
[A'isha is the baby girl we've been caring for over the past three months, since she was 3 days old. She came to us through the crisis pregnancy program of Evangel Hospital.]

She came alone this time, minus the entourage of family members that accompanied her on her first Sunday afternoon visit six weeks ago. This was A'isha's grandmother's second visit in nine weeks. I'm told that she is going to be the one to raise A'isha, but no one knows when. Six months? More?

She is matronly but looked lovely in her pale green embroidered lace, her head completely covered with a filmy shawl to match. She had called me on her cell phone when she pulled up at our gate, so that I could restrain our dog while she unloaded three bulging, black bags of fresh produce and presented them to me, apologizing that she couldn't find bananas for sale on a Sunday. Her offering also included 5,500 naira ($37) to cover the cost of powdered formula for A'isha.

I brought the grandmother a glass of cool sekanjabin (a minty Persian drink) and we settled down to examine Baby A'isha, weigh her by picking her up, and remark at how well she was growing. Within fifteen minutes, the visit was over--grandmother had climbed back into her car and was gone.

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

A'isha

A'Isha 26-Apr-09Facebook is a great tool, but one of its disadvantages is that once you start using it, you may tend to neglect your blog. After all, if all your friends are reading the news on Facebook, what's the point of putting it into the blog? So, even though we've had a new foster baby since she was born 9 weeks ago, you wouldn't know unless you've been following our Facebook posts. I'll definitely have to try to keep on top of this blog as well as the fast-moving target of Facebook. (By the way, if you would like to add us as a friend on Facebook and we don't know you too well, please put a comment in your friend request since I generally don't accept what look like random requests.)

A'isha came to us via the crisis pregnancy program at Evangel. We don't know much of the story of her mother and family, just that someone was needed to care for her for a while. She's been a delightful baby—everyone remarks how cute she is. The biggest challenge we've had with her is that it takes a long time to feed her and get her back to sleep at night. One or the other of us is usually up from 1 to 2 hours for each feeding (yes, I'm taking my turns too!). Fortunately, she's transitioning down to only one feeding each night. For the first 6 or 7 weeks, though, we were pretty exhausted.

Luke

Luke is doing quite well, especially with his reading. We always read a Bible story at bedtime, but lately he has been asking to read one aloud to us from his easy Bible. It's so encouraging! He's also getting captivated by books in a new way. Until this year, it was hard to get him to listen very long (although we did read all but he last book in the Narnia series). Now, though, we're reading from 30 minutes to even more than an hour after dinner every night, and Luke usually asks for more. We've read Jungle Book, A Wrinkle in Time, Stowaway to the Mushroom Planet, Carry On Mr. Bowditch, a Hardy Boys mystery, and others. We also often find him asleep in bed with his head in a book (not that we want him to lose sleep, mind you). This new love of books proves he's a real Blyth!